I have now finished the first draft of my Confidence book. 42 000 words. I can barely believe it myself. Before I started writing it, I did a lot of research, as you do. One of the things I did, was to collect quotes about Confidence. My plan was to use them in the book to underline certain statements I made.
Before I started writing it, I did a lot of research, as you do. One of the things I did, was to collect quotes about Confidence. My plan was to use them in the book to underline certain statements I made.
However, somewhere along the line, I started worrying about committing plagiarism. I found out only one thing for sure and that is that only books written before 1923 are entirely copyright-free. Everything else may be copyrighted.
So I decided not to use any quotes at all in the book, to be on the safe side. I did not much feel like writing to each author to get permission to add the quote in question to my book.
So I ended up with a long list of carefully chosen quotes about self-confidence and nowhere to use them.
I did not want them to go to waste completely, so here they are, starting with one of my all-time favourites:
“Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.” Dorothy M. Neddermeyer
“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” Brigham Young
“Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.” Theodore Roosevelt
“To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” Denis Waitley
“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.” Andrew Matthews
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”Stacey Charter
“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.” Marie Curie
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” Louise L. Hay
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.” Eleanor Roosevelt
“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.” Fred Rogers
“We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.” Roderick Thorp
“You have no control over other people’s taste, so focus on staying true to your own.” Tim Gunn
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered – just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” Barrie Davenport
“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” e.e. cummings
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Eleanor Roosevelt
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” Golda Meir
“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. ” M. Scott Peck
“Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” Harvey Fierstein
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” Lucille Ball
“I say, dress to please yourself. Listen to your inner muse and take a chance. Wear something that says ‘Here I am!’ today.” Iris Apfel
“Confidence… thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” Laozi
I hope that you found at least one in there that resonated with you. For, me it is back to the painful process of editing.
I remember the horrors of correctly citing sources and attributing quotes in legal writing – I would be paranoid in published writing too!
Great quotes. Love the first one, and the Eleanor Roosevelt ones, in oarticular.
Glad to know I am not the only one who is paranoid about this! Thanks, Lucy.
A shame you didn’t use them in your book but I can understand the minefield. Beautiful and inspiring quotes – thank you x
Congrats on your 42,000 word masterpiece, and I can only imagine how much time you spent editing this post!
You couldn’t possibly, Gary! Thanks for the congrats.
I love these quotes Margaretha. I recognize many but several are new to me. How wonderful you could share them with us even though not included in your new book.
I love quotes, Molly. I am an avid quote collector. At least I can post them here, if not in my book!
Why is it we can never have enough quotes on confidence? Maybe its because its something we all struggle with every day. How relevant and inspiring. Good luck with your book!
Maybe it is because we have a finite amount of confidence, so we have to replenish it regularly. Thanks, Laurie!
I am grateful that it’s been a long time since confidence was an issue for me. I think with age and experience, it comes.
I think so too. Sadly, it doesn’t seem to work this way for everyone.
Surely you are allowed to use at least the ‘famous’ quotes if you attribute them?
I often see quotes in books, without mention of obtaining the author’s permission. I think it is fairly common practice. Most copyright notices say: No part of this book may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other noncommercial uses permitted by USA copyright law. So some quoting is allowed, I just can’t be bothered to check each quote. I especially favour quotes from Marianne Williamson, but they are often more than a paragraph long, so I decided just to leave it.
Thank you for sharing the quotes with us. I discovered the same thing when I was publishing mu book. I did try to get in contact with the author’s of the quotes, they were all horse people, most of them had hosted clings in the past that I’ve enjoyed. ..well, I ended up not having the quotes in my book.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” By Marianne Williamson, have been a quote I resisted in my mind many times while growing up.
Best of luck with your book. Have a wonderful day!
That is exactly the quote I was referring to in my reply to M L Kappa. It was part of Nelson Mandela’s inaugural speech, so it has special meaning for me. Is your book on Amazon, Maria?
That quote does have a very special meaning.
I had my book on Amazon for a while, but after some mix up when I changed my last name, they stopped paying me, so I took it down. I have it available here http://www.blurb.com/b/4598887-nevada-mustangs.
What a beautiful book, Maria! Won’t you put it back on Amazon? You will benefit greatly from some reviews. I know amazon can be difficult sometimes but it is still the best book distributor around. I get a small but decent income from my horse book on Amazon.
Thank you! I’ll put the second edition there 🙂
Well done.
Thanks, Jacqueline!