In my last post “Have you lost your way?” we talked about the indications that you can use to figure out if you have lost your way. Today, I share with you how you can get back on track if you have lost your way.
” Just because someone stumbles and loses their path, doesn’t mean they’re lost forever. ” – Charles Xavier.
During my retreats, one of the most important concepts I share with my guests, is that to dramatically reduce their stress levels, they need to decide to live more often in the present, instead of regretting what happened in the past or fretting about what might happen in the future. So let’s not dwell on why you are lost today, let’s focus on the here and now: who you are right now, what you want and where you want to go from here. I also tell my guests, that sometimes it isn’t a question of desperately striving to find your way again once you have lost it, but it’s about choosing and creating a whole new way for yourself: one that is in tune with your current values, ideals and expectations.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”- George Bernard Shaw.
So what do you do to get back on track?
Here are a few suggestions:
- Get a gratitude attitude. Start by reminding yourself of everything you have that you are thankful for. I encourage my guests to make a list of a hundred things, people, events, situations etc. I fully agree with Melody Beattie, who said “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
- Try something new. Learn a new language, take up a new hobby, like painting, try a new form of exercise, or travel somewhere you have never been before. Challenge yourself, get out of your comfort zone.
- Get assistance. You do not have to do this on your own. The most difficult part, facing the fact that you have lost your way, is behind you. Talk to a good friend, your mentor if you have one (if you don’t, it’s worth looking around you for role models, people who have gone through what you are going through and survived,) read a good book, take an online course (Udemy has several) or join an online coaching program like the Make a Magical Life Map Program.
- Do something for someone else. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, ”Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?” We talk a lot about the purpose of life during my retreats, and specifically about how to find the purpose of our lives. My conviction is that the purpose of most people’s lives is to serve others, The trick is to figure out how to go about it, using one’s own unique talents, knowledge, skills and experience. When you feel lost, do different things for other people, and see if one specific service fills you with inspiration and motivation.
- Take care of yourself. This suggestion compliments the previous one. You cannot pour from an empty cup, so fill your own cup first, by taking care of yourself first. Get enough sleep, eat healthily, get regular exercise, manage your stress, maintain your relationships, and invest in yourself.
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine.
Get back on track with my Signature Coaching Program
These suggestions will point you in the right direction. When you feel as if you have lost your way, the first thing to do is to change your viewpoint. When you feel lost, see it as a gift that you have been given, so you can get on the right path to where you are meant to go, not to where you think you should be going. I have walked this path with several of my guests, during the 5/7 days they came here on retreat, especially during The Best is Yet To Come: Reinvent Yourself Christmas and New Year retreats. Sometimes though, 5/7 days is not enough, so I created the Make a Magical Life Map Program (with or without the participation of my horses,) my signature coaching program.
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Dr Margaretha Montagu 